“Boys, no!” “Please don’t jump on the stage.”
She looked up at me after burying her face in her hands. “I am so sorry about the kids.”
There is absolutely nothing for her to be sorry about. She is a single mom. She is raising two precious, well-adjusted boys (who WILL be boys) on her own. She is the best mom I know.
On another day, with another friend, the conversation went like this:
“I can’t believe he left. He just left. How am I going to make it without him?”
“You are going to take one brave step toward Jesus at a time.”
And so life goes, with its twists and turns and joys and maddening pull-your-hair-out moments.
I’ve walked in the shoes of both of these women. Stood in their places with tears streaming down my face and wondered how and when this moment would end, or if it would ever end.
Here is the thought I was struck with today on my way in to work:
“What you are going through is a life season, not a life sentence.”
Whether you just moved across the country and are trying to fit in with new people, or just changed jobs, or are looking for a job, or are living in a coffee shop because you are homeless, this is only a season. Life is full of them. You do not have to live out a life sentence of sorrow or depression. Divorce, homelessness, addiction, grief – these are things that happen in life – they DO NOT have to define you. You were made in the image of God. Psalm 139:14 says, “I will praise you because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made (HCSB).”
You were made to laugh, to love and be loved, to enjoy nature, to give back to others.
When I look back over my life I can clearly see that God has not wasted one single bad season of my life. Not one. He is actively using those hard times I went through to help others get back on their feet.
I attend a faith-based group called Celebrate Recovery. The second principle we learn in the group is this: “Earnestly believe that God exists, that I matter to him, and that he has the power to help me recover.” Oh how I wish I had learned this step years ago.
1 Peter 5: 7 says this, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you (NIV).” I don’t know about you, but I have had enough of anxiety.
Here’s what I want you to infuse into your life:
You matter to God. He hates what you are going through. He catches every tear. He sees your heart. He alone has the power to help you recover.
What you are going through is a life season, not a life sentence.
Melissa Fairchild is the Senior Editor of LSS Ministries and the LoveServeShine blog. She is also a single-m0m advocate and an activist for women in crisis. Find Melissa on Facebook.