“So…can I ask with as beautiful as you are, and as Godly as you are…how come no one’s snatched you up yet?”
That question came up to me again tonight – as it has off and on throughout the last several years. It’s always interesting to me how it annoys me hearing it from some people, yet totally blesses me when asked by others. I think it’s because you can tell a person’s heart behind the question. Basically, I’ve seen that question come up with one of three motives behind it.
#1 – TRYING TO SEND ANOTHER MESSAGE – Some mean it in a way implying “there must be something wrong with you if you’re not married off yet” which of course stings a little when they’re passing judgment without even taking the time to get to know you.
#2 – THE INQUIRING BUSY BODY – Others ask out of prying curiosity, which is in essence more about them than it is about you. This also carries a sting because the motive is they want the answer to their question more than they want to consider how it may make me feel being on the receiving end of that inquiry. They have an itch, and they want it scratched – so they forge ahead not thinking how it may make me feel, or the impact on my heart it may bear to again be asked a question which carries the masked trace of “what’s wrong with you?”
#3 – A LOVING COMPLIMENT – But oh, how kind when you receive the 3rd possibility. There are those that speak it out as a true blessing of a compliment. You can hear a pure tone of them relaying by their question that you are unique, special, and set apart, and they find it hard to believe that no one has discovered the diamond that you are. They say it caring – wanting you to know that THEY see a treasure in you – and that you are worth being loved in a special way.
When asked this question, regardless of the motive in which it’s asked, it gets me thinking quickly about the hard time we have with contentment – whether in our lives, or in others’ lives. We don’t like it when anything in this world makes us scratch our head and say “this ought not be so.” We think all things should be the way WE want them to look – at all times, and we have a really hard time when they’re not falling into place.
When I’m asked why I’m still single, I often want to smile and respectfully say what to me is an obvious response: (more…)